Key Takeaways
- Some people are using artificial intelligence, like ChatGPT, to get advice on their relationships and resolve arguments.
- Users have found AI can offer unbiased perspectives and help improve communication with their partners.
- While seen as a cheaper alternative to therapy by some, mental health experts caution that AI is only a tool and cannot replace professional human therapists.
- Concerns have also been raised by partners who feel AI’s involvement can be intrusive or based on one-sided information.
Artificial intelligence is finding its way into many aspects of our lives, and for some, that now includes navigating the complexities of romantic relationships.
Grace Carter, for instance, found herself in a cycle of arguments with her boyfriend, Lucas Martin. Seeking a new approach, she turned to ChatGPT for advice, according to the New York Post.
Carter explained that she didn’t want to constantly complain to friends. She found conversing with the AI, though “a bit mad at first,” strangely reassuring. It helped her calm down after disputes.
She now regularly uses AI, not for direct commands, but for suggestions on how to phrase things better, understand her boyfriend’s viewpoint, or gently diffuse tense situations. Carter feels the AI provides ideas without taking sides, which she sometimes finds more helpful than advice from friends.
This trend isn’t isolated. The New York Post also shared the story of Dom Versaci and Abella Bala, who found ChatGPT helped them de-escalate fights and understand each other better.
However, professionals urge caution. Ashley Williams, a licensed mental health counselor, told The Post that while AI can be a useful “tool,” it’s not equipped to replace human therapists.
Williams emphasized that licensed professionals can address specific, nuanced needs within a relationship in ways AI cannot currently manage.
The use of AI in relationships isn’t without its critics from within those relationships either. One man shared on Reddit his discomfort with his girlfriend frequently involving an AI bot in their discussions.
He explained to the New York Post that it felt like being “ambushed with thoughts and opinions from a robot.” He worried that since his girlfriend formulates the prompts, the AI’s responses would naturally agree with her perspective, giving him no chance to explain his side.
